Weeping at Death of Loved one!
Guidance from The Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him)
Usamah bin Zaid (r.a.) narrated: ‘The daughter of the Messenger of Allah (Peace Be Upon Him) sent for him as her child was dying, but the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) returned the messenger and sent her good wishes saying, “Whatever Allah takes away or gives, belongs to Him, and everything with Him has a limited fixed term (in this world), and so she should be patient and anticipate Allah’s reward.” She again sent for him adjuring him for the sake of Allah to come. The Messenger of Allah (Peace Be Upon Him), accompanied with Hadrat Saad bin Ubadah, Hadrat Muadh bin Jabal, Hadrat Ubayy bin Kaab, Hadrat Zaid bin Thabit and some other companions (r.a.) went to see her. The child was lifted up to the Messenger of Allah (Peace Be Upon Him) while his breath was disturbed in his chest. On seeing that, the eyes of the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) streamed with tears. Hadrat Saad (r.a.) commented “O Messenger of Allah (Peace Be Upon Him)! What is this?” The Messenger of Allah (Peace Be Upon Him) replied, “It (the tears) are compassion which Allah has placed in the hearts of His slaves! Allah is Compassionate only to those among His slaves who are compassionate (to others)”.
Related by Al-Bukhari and Muslim.Hadith quoted from Riyad-us-Saliheen (Hadith # 20)
Gathering of all the relatives is not necessary at the time of someone’s death. However, their participation in the funeral prayer is Mustahab Fard Kifayah (a desirable collective duty upon all Muslims; but which is sufficient or equivalent to all having performed it if it is performed by only some of them).
To shed tears on at a loved one’s death, and to exhort the relatives of the deceased for patience and accountability are permissible acts.
Expression of kindness and love is a gift from Allah and means to gain His Compassion, while deprivation from it is callousness.